They do not support you? Go and find your people
John 15:18:
"If the world hates you, keep in mind that it hated me first."
In your effort to make people see you positively, whether as a student leader aiming for another term or in politics, the challenge is tough. You work hard for others to like and support you, wanting acknowledgment. Yet, no matter what you do, some folks just do not want to support you.
You are always trying to balance things, being careful with what you say and do to show a good side. Whether it is in leadership or public life, you act like you are on a stage, hoping others will like you. Your speeches are thought out, your actions planned, all to get people to see you in a good way.
But the challenge is still there. Some people will not budge, and will not believe in you, no matter your efforts. Even with your accomplishments, speeches, and good deeds, some folks will not change their minds.
The silent struggle to win over those who seem resistant creates a persistent background stress. The inability to gain universal support, despite your hard work, can lead to a feeling of inadequacy. The worry about not being able to control how others perceive you can be overwhelming, contributing to a sense of powerlessness.
In the pursuit of gaining recognition, the stress intensifies, manifesting in the fear of judgment and the pressure to continuously prove your worth. The weight of expectations, both self-imposed and external, creates a constant undercurrent of anxiety, making the journey to be seen positively a challenging and emotionally taxing endeavor.
However, you have to understand that not everyone will support you for who you are. It is just how things are. Some people might not like you, no matter what you do.
Take Jesus Christ as an example. He faced opposition and criticism simply because of his identity and the message he brought. Some could not accept his teachings or the way he challenged the established norms. His mere existence stirred up resentment among those who disagreed with him.
But the flip side is, there will be others who will back you up just because of who you are.
In Jesus’ case, he had followers who believed in him unwaveringly. Despite the hatred and opposition, some people recognized the value of his message and were willing to stand by him. These supporters became his community, understanding and accepting him for who he was.
Your job now is to find your people, the ones who will stand by you.
To do that, start by being genuine. Be yourself, and let people see the real you. Those who appreciate you for who you are will naturally gravitate towards you. Also, listen to others. Pay attention and show interest in their opinions. People like to feel heard, and when you give them that, they might become your supporters.
Building connections is important. Spend time with different folks, and over time, you will discover those who share your values and support your ideas. Do not be afraid to share your thoughts and feelings. Opening up can create a bond, and those who connect with your authenticity will likely become part of your support system.
Lastly, be patient. Finding your people takes time. It will not happen overnight.
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