Ghosted? You do not need to beat yourself up
Have you ever been there? Late-night talks on the phone, sharing laughter, and deep conversations with someone you are into. The connection felt real. But then, suddenly, the conversations stop. No replies, no calls. Just silence. You have been ghosted.
Ghosting is when someone you have been talking to suddenly disappears – no messages, no calls, just radio silence. They vanished into thin air, leaving you wondering what went wrong.
This abrupt silence can hit hard. It messes with your mind, making you question yourself. Did you say something wrong? Was it a joke gone bad? Are you not enough? The uncertainty gnaws at you, and the absence of closure stings. Ghosting is not just a disappearing act. It is a silent rejection that can take a toll on your mental well-being.
However, ghosting is not something new, meaning you are not alone in this struggle.
In Psalms 55, David felt a profound betrayal akin to the hurtful act of ghosting that many experience today.
A close friend, someone he trusted deeply, turned away without warning, leaving him bewildered and abandoned. The pain of being ignored and left behind pierced his heart, echoing the modern-day experience of being ghosted in relationships.
David coped with this betrayal by pouring out his emotions in prayer. He did not hold back his feelings but expressed them openly to God.
Once you turn to Him, it is then you realize you are not at fault and that there may be greater things ahead.
Sometimes, people ghost because they lack courage. They avoid facing uncomfortable conversations or admitting their true feelings. It may seem hurtful, but perhaps God is shielding you from a relationship that would not bring fulfillment. He could redirect you toward someone better suited to share life with you.
Others ghost due to commitment fears. They may fear getting too close or fear the responsibilities that come with a relationship. It might feel like rejection in these moments, but God might be sparing you from investing time and emotion into a connection that will not thrive. Trust that He knows what is best for you and someone else may be in your plans.
Some people ghost out of selfishness, prioritizing their desires over the well-being of others. It may feel like a personal affront in such instances, but perhaps God is protecting you from a relationship where your needs would always come second. Someone could be out there who values you more than the one who chose to disappear.
Remember, even in the pain of being ghosted, God may be working behind the scenes to guide you away from unfulfilling relationships and toward someone who will appreciate and reciprocate the love you have to offer.
That being said, trust in His plan, even though it seems like nonsense for you at the moment.
God's ways are beyond what you can fully grasp. His plans and actions surpass human understanding. Only He sees the bigger picture, steering your life with a purpose that may not always be immediately apparent.
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