Arguments in relationships are not necessarily bad
Ephesians 4:26-27:
"In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold."
Philippians 4:6-7:
"Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus."
You might currently find yourself worried due to ongoing arguments with your partner. This concern often stems from the prevalent notion that frequent arguments can harm relationships. Such worries are not unfounded. After all, many couples have experienced the detrimental effects of unresolved conflicts.
Take, for instance, the story of a couple whose constant disagreements over finances eroded their bond, leading to eventual separation. Similarly, another pair's inability to communicate effectively and manage conflicts gradually led to resentment and the breakdown of their relationship.
However, arguments in relationships can actually help you grow as a couple.
Arguments may cause temporary discomfort. However, they provide an opportunity for you and your partner to understand each other better. Through discussing differing viewpoints, you gain insights into your partner's values, beliefs, and perspectives. For instance, you disagree about where to spend the holidays. While it raises conflicts, discussing your preferences can help you both understand what matters most to each other.
Moreover, arguments can lead to problem-solving and compromise. And these are essential skills in any relationship. When faced with a disagreement, you and your partner must work together to find a resolution that satisfies both parties. For example, if you disagree on how to handle household chores, you can negotiate and come up with a schedule or system that feels fair to both of you. By navigating conflicts in this way, you build trust and collaboration. In turn, you lay the foundation for future challenges.
And, arguments can provide an opportunity for personal growth and self-awareness. When you encounter disagreements, you may discover aspects of yourself that need improvement, such as communication skills or emotional regulation. Likewise, you can learn about your partner's triggers and sensitivities. This will allow you to approach future discussions with greater sensitivity and understanding.
Think of arguments as challenges that God brings into your and your partner's life, whether they seem small or big. These challenges are not meant to harm you or your relationship maliciously.
God allows these arguments to happen because He knows that through them, you and your partner can learn valuable lessons. These challenges test your patience, understanding, and love for each other. They provide opportunities for you to practice forgiveness, empathy, and communication skills. By facing these challenges together, you and your partner can become stronger individuals and a stronger couple.
Instead of feeling anxious, consider learning to thank God for presenting arguments for you and your partner. If, in the end, things do not work out between you and your partner, try to see it as part of God's plan. Perhaps God has someone else in mind for you, someone who is better suited to your needs and desires. Trust in God's wisdom and guidance, knowing that He has a purpose for everything that happens in your life. By surrendering to His will, you can find peace and acceptance in whatever outcome may come.
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